What is the Difference Between Sexual and Spiritual Intimacy?
Updated: Mar 12, 2021
I use to fear intimacy and was unable to be emotionally close because it required a great deal of trust and vulnerability. Sexual trauma from abuse and rape caused me to dissociate. These experiences made me think sex was bad and shameful. It was a dark time where I was led astray and captured by the dark forces of evil without a true relationship with the Lord.
But God rescued me from the domain of darkness, and transferred me into the kingdom of His beloved Son. Colossians 1:13 NASB The Lord's compassionate love helped me overcome fears of intimacy by digging up the underlying emotions and driving out the fear.
God is love. His love teaches us what true love is. I have learned it isn’t about sexual intimacy, but a deeper connection of spiritual intimacy with Him. A true intimacy means deeply knowing another and allowing oneself to be deeply known. Nothing better can replace that longing and fill up all the empty holes. It's a deep relationship that mysteriously reaches into our spiritual beings.
This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
Ephesians 5:32 ESV
The whole Bible is a metaphor of marriage and sex that points to our real relationship with Jesus. An intimate relationship of love, support, and trust. A genuine intimacy of conversations with mutual openness, transparency, vulnerability, and continuing to build on the relationship. You don’t have to be married to have this intimate relationship. It is a symbol that points to the marriage where Jesus is the groom and we are His bride. Receive the truth of His relentless love rooted in spiritual intimacy.
In heaven we will experience this real intimacy, which far surpasses anything we experience here on earth.
For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.
Matthew 22:30 ESV
An exceedingly beautiful new holy city as citizens in heaven with a perfect community of God's redeemed people.
And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.
Revelation 21:2 ESV